So, I spoke with my friend about what was going on at daycare. She said the teacher she spoke to, let’s call her Nancy, filled her in on some stuff.
- The incident in which my friend’s 2.5 year old was allegedly hit by the teacher (we’ll call the teacher Mary), we have a little more information. Nancy walked in to the class room to find the 2.5 year old crying very hard, and Mary just walking away from him like she didn’t care (not comforting the child/apologizing or anything). The child said “Mary hit me.” At that time, Mary didn’t say anything she just ignored it and walked away. Later that day, Mary said “I accidentally hit him with the chair when I was moving it.” The daycare had called CPS, and called the mom (my friend). My friend asked her son that night “so, you accidentally got hit with a chair today by Mary?” and her kid said “no, she hit me with her hand, on purpose.” CPS did come and investigated (for some reason interviewed the kid WITHOUT his parent present), and found no violation because the kid didn’t say anything at that time. Well, it had been 2 weeks.
Other reported instances:
- Nancy walked in to the class room at naptime to find another kid crying very hard by his mat, with Mary sitting next to him. He said Mary hit him and his ear/face was red. The parents met with the director of the school and the action taken was to move the kid away from Mary’s class and move him up to the next class.
- A new teacher in the class with Mary observed Mary tell a (2.5-3yr old) girl “don’t touch that.” When the girl reached her hand out again like she was going to touch it, Mary slapped/hit the girl’s hand away.
- The same new teacher witnessed Mary holding a child who did not want to be held. He was being disobedient/being dead weight. Mary threatened the child and said “If you don’t stop, I am going to drop you.” and when the child didn’t stop, she dropped the child who fell to the ground on the hallway floor. ***this incident was reported to CPS also and it WAS founded by CPS and listed as a violation
Nancy is leaving the school because she is upset that administration has not removed Mary from the school. Supposedly Mary’s husband works at the school (it’s a church that has a daycare, btw) as a janitor. Nancy thinks that the reason they haven’t removed Mary is because Mary is a church member and has been for a long time and might be friends with some of administrative staff. Perhaps the church is saying things like “oh, I’m sure Mary didn’t do that,” etc etc
So, what now?
Well, my friend whose son was allegedly hit is setting up a meeting with the Director to meet in person and suggest that Mary be removed from the school. (this won’t happen until the week after next as the director is on vacation). I told her to bring the e-mail that I had sent to my friend on May 22nd before any of this stuff had come out. This is what I had written in the e-mail:
Oh, I have been meaning to ask you a question. So, the teacher in the older 2’s class, Ms Mary? (is that her name). Does anyone like her? It was really interesting, see I drop Lamb off on Mondays and Tuesdays early around 7:20am. The rest of the week Adam drops her off after 8am. So on Mondays/Tuesdays she goes to the older 2’s in the morning, and usually there are NO OTHER kids in there at all! Maybe Sara. No one else. And I remember in toddler 2, lots of kids were dropped off early (they would be dropped off in toddler 1 classroom). So I thought, what happened?! Is that just random or is there something to it? I know Ms Mary isn’t super warm and excited as the other teachers, but ….. just wondered if there was some reason no one is ever there with her early. Poor Lamb doesn’t have a choice!
I figure that is pretty good support that I ALREADY thought something was weird with this teacher. Now, what do I do? My kid has regular interactions, sometimes for several hours a day, with Mary. Do I feel like my kid is in direct immediate danger? Not really. I mean, I’m worried about the situation in general. I’m pissed. This is ridiculous. A woman like her, who clearly is not happy with her job, should not be in that position.
Do I switch schools? If they remove Mary do I stay? I certainly will be asking the director to remove Mary. Lamb really likes her school. My experiences have been very positive in all other regards, but this is pretty terrible.