Tonight’s the night

Tonight is the meeting with the school. I’m pretty nervous about it. I’m pretty angry with administration and I want them to hear my points which I think are valid. This is way more than just the terrible teacher Ms Mary. This is about how they have protected her over the past 2 years and turned a blind eye to her behavior because of their friendship with her.

There are several points that other parents will be making and that we will be making as a group. But for me, I have two.

1. How often do kids at the school report that teachers have hit them? (my guess is, they will say never, to which I would reply..) Exactly, so when multiple kids have come forward saying this teacher has hit them, and you respond with “she would never do that, your kid must be lying or confusing a hit with a hug” and you question the reliability of the kids, and not the teacher, there is something horribly wrong with that.

2. Why have they kept this teacher on for the past 2 years when there has been clear evidence of her unethical behavior? What purpose has she served the school? How can we trust administration who protects such a person?

Ugh. I really hate confrontation. I really do. It puts my stomach in knots. Hopefully the meeting will be productive, though I am imagining administration acting like they had no idea that this stuff was going on, to which I would to cry BULL SHIT!!!


5 thoughts on “Tonight’s the night

  1. You mentioned a case with protective services, right? If she was found to have abused or neglected a child then it will be public record. Look it up and bring that info with you!

  2. Mo says:

    Prepare yourself for disappointment and defensiveness, because there’s a good chance that’s what you’ll get. If they’ve defended her this long, they’ll probably continue to. Not to mention they’re going to avoid claiming responsibility strictly because of liability issues.
    I would use this meeting to help get feelings of your chest, and I sincerely hope they will address them and you will leave the meeting feeling better.

    With me – when we had “the meeting” most of the parents became shrinking violets out of some sense of politeness and said nothing, the manager was defensive and admitted nothing, and I ended up being the “angry one”.
    and you know what? I was ok with that because at least I was defending my child’s interest.

    That’s all we can do.
    Good luck. Hugs.

    • Totally. I sort of agree that they will be defensive and deny knowledge of stuff, but you know what I’ve learned as a counselor is people can deny things outwardly, but inwardly THEY KNOW IT. They are thinking about it. The director cannot forget the things she has heard/witnessed so….. they know it.
      Thanks for your support!

  3. I find that once an employer is found to defend someone who is obviously a bad employee, it will just continue. I worked with a girl who was a terrible employee. She admitted that she didn’t bother to learn things because she didn’t want extra responsibility, and was even caught calling a customer an ass by the vice president of the company. She made each work day a living hell, but the bosses kept her on because… well, I’m not sure, but I just know that it happens. Your situation is so much worse, but I just wanted to tell you that I understand. The safety, both physically and mentally, of your beautiful baby girl is the most important thing in the world, and if a daycare cannot see that, then I don’t believe they should be a daycare anymore. The children and their well-being should be the first thing they are concerned with, not loyalty to a woman who obviously has the wrong job.

    Good luck! Let us know how it goes!

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