So, as I consider potential other schools for my daughter to attend (just in case), I struggle with a few things. Faith based schools are typically less expensive. Right now my daughter goes to a faith based school. We pay about $750 a month (that’s for generally 7:30am-4pm care) plus a $300 yearly registration fee. They provide snacks and lunch. It’s a baptist school, which is fine. I mean, right now my daughter is so young that being in a super high faith environment is probably not extremely impactful.
Non faith based schools in our area typically cost about $1,100+ per month. That’s half my take home salary. At that point it just doesn’t even seem to make sense. There is one a couple blocks from my house that is pretty bad ass. You know, all the bells and whistles and such. But I just don’t know if we want to be paying that much every single month.
So, I go back to faith based schools. Tuition in the area seems to range from $800-950 for full time. So, the school we go to right now is currently one of the least expensive options. It’s comparable to the daycare that is semi-associated with my work (which is a secular daycare). My coworker pays $725 for that but they don’t provide meals and there are a lot of other downsides to that daycare. If I switched jobs in the next year that would mean moving my daughter because I work 30 minutes+ away from where I live.
Why would I worry that a religion be too impactful? My husband is definitely not religious. I would consider him an intellectual and spiritual… someone who has read many philosophical and spiritual texts. He was raised Baptist and his mother is hard-core evangelistic. He has a pretty intense negative reaction when it comes to religion, especially Christianity.
I went to a Methodist pre-school, a public elementary school but attended a Methodist church for some of my childhood. My parents were never super religious though or ever pushed religion down my throat. I went to a baptist middle school and an Episcopal high school but never really felt connected to Christianity.
I honestly don’t know where I stand with what I believe in. That’s an uncomfortable space for me to be in a times.Sometimes I felt like going to those schools made me dislike religion even more. I know that I only attended those schools because of the education. My parents weren’t sending me there for spiritual purposes.
So, back to my daughter. I wonder, if we have no religious affiliation, and she goes to some Catholic pre-school or Lutheran pre-school, or heck, even stays at her current Baptist pre-school, will that be weird for her? Will she be getting all this teaching and information (some of the schools require weekly church attendance by the kids during school hours) that doesn’t match up at home? Some of these schools may even hold and/or teach beliefs that are extremely contrary to our own personal values, such as perhaps LGBT issues. I suppose I would have to ask those questions to the school, for the values that are important to me.
Or maybe the whole thing would just be a wash. I mean I went to a methodist pre-school right? Well, I only went 2 days a week and as my mom says it, Methodists are kind of in the realm of all beliefs are welcome here….that’s why she likes it really. Okay, that’s just her opinion (not trying to offend anyone here).
Just throwing things around in my head right now.